Nevan Hagarty had an idea. If he and other Halo 3 players stayed online the night of 13 January 2022, they could delay the impending server shutdown. Players knew this was coming: it had happened to Halo 2 when its Xbox Live servers were turned off in 2010, and a group managed to stay logged into the multiplayer servers for weeks.

And so, players gathered online before the server shutdown to pay homage and to mourn the game they loved so dearly. And, maybe, to keep it online for a little longer. “I must have played ’til about 4am the night of the shutdown, trading stories with so many players about their love of the game and their experiences over the last 15 years,” says Hagarty, 22. “It was a really wholesome experience I won’t forget.”

A sense of mourning went both spoken and unspoken. Thirty-year-old fan Jimi hadn’t played Halo 3 in a while but logged on to the game on shutdown day to experience the original servers just once more, later posting a video on Reddit.

“My team was losing really bad,” he says, “I saw a few of the other team’s people standing in the middle, and our guy standing in the middle, and everybody’s just looking at each other. I shot up once in the air, and then everybody just starts going crazy.” Someone threw a shield down, others threw grenades in the air and launched rockets. It looked almost like fireworks. “There were no people on the voice chat. There wasn’t any mutual agreement on this. Everybody just felt it and knew.”

When online multiplayer came to video games in the late 90s, it meant that players from across the globe could interact with people they’d never otherwise meet. This changed the trajectory of video games, bringing people together in ways that games hadn’t before – to play, and to mourn, when their virtual worlds are doomed to die.

Games go offline all the time, and people have got used to saying goodbye to their favourites. The increasing popularity of online-only live service games means more reliance on servers to host these experiences. And those servers cost money to run and maintain; in the case of recent flop Highguard, developer Wildlight Entertainment couldn’t afford to keep the game online for more than a few months. Over twenty games have shut off their servers already in 2026.

“People really hold on to the idea of place,” says UX and games researcher Evan Conaway, who holds a PhD in anthropology. “That we create community online at all is really remarkable. When you find it and you have it and it’s real, you have an emotional connection to it. Wanting to hold on to it is only human.”

Conaway says this happens a lot in the real world, when the corner bar shutters, or a local skatepark is torn down. His research delved into the ways people commemorate online spaces, with a focus on the massively multiplayer online role-playing game World of Warcraft (WoW). People play together on separate servers – or instances – which all run contained copies of WoW, and each server has its own culture created by the community. When the game changes, the culture can change, too. WoW has persisted for decades, and the game is no longer the same as it was when it was released – it’s hardly the same game it was just a few years ago.

Though people still have access to WoW, they are often “gradually mourning”, says Conaway. They know that this version of the game is ephemeral. It won’t stay the same – it can’t, by design. In exchange for new content, players must accept that the spaces they inhabit online will find new forms. “The quests are different, the way things are worded is different,” he says. “The way I felt while playing it, and wandering around by myself or exploring the world, all of that is part of this meaning-making for people – just the raw experience of it.”

Part of Conaway’s research centred on a group of people who wanted to literally hold on to those memories and meanings. When Blizzard Entertainment was changing its servers in 2011, it auctioned off the old server blades with autographed placards displaying which server they held. It was important for some players, he says, to have a physical representation of that moment in time. He points to one server in particular, Proudmoore, which was an unofficial queer server: “For a gay person or queer person who was playing World of Warcraft at that time on that server, it does feel a little bit like a skatepark brick, like they can take home a piece of a thing.”

When World of Warcraft players in China were faced with server shutdowns in 2023, they were at the mercy of both Blizzard Entertainment and its Chinese partner NetEase. Games in China must be published with a local company, so when Blizzard Entertainment and NetEase had a dispute, it hit the players. Millions lost not just the server but the whole game, and there was no date set for its return. It could have been months, years. Maybe never.

Naturally, players wanted to gather in their servers on the day of the shutdown, 24 January 2023, to pay their respects. To do so, people started preparing – and logging in – days in advance, according to City University of Hong Kong PhD student and games researcher HongLan Xu, who joined them to document the last days.

“I encountered hundreds of players, but there are millions,” says Xu. “Everybody thought it could be at least several years. They don’t know when the server will be back. It’s profound. It’s real. The shutdown is very real for them, so they gathered in the game to say farewell to their avatars, like it’s the last time.”

Chinese players’ grief was mixed with anger, too, says Xu. Many in the Chinese market felt disrespected, as if Blizzard Entertainment didn’t care about them: “From a Chinese player’s perspective, the main takeaway is sometimes the capitalism of the western gaming companies [leads to] distrust.”

WoW opened back up to Chinese players in August 2024. Returning players were glad to have it back, of course, but there was an unease underneath that excitement. This could happen again; they knew what it felt like to lose it all. “Virtual life attachment and this sense of loss is deep, profound,” says Xu. “It can be completely vulnerable and very uncertain.”

Losing your forever-game is a uniquely sad experience. Players make a very real investment into these spaces – time, money, friendships, stories, characters, creativity. As one player put it, “What gets me is that people poured themselves into these games. Not just cash, but actual time, actual friendships built inside them, characters they spent months on. And then one day a studio decides the numbers don’t work any more and everything just disappears.”