Marriage is often presented as the natural next step in a womanâs life. But what if a woman does not see it that way? For actor and singer

Shruti Haasan, the idea of marriage comes with fear, not because she does not believe in love or commitment, but because she deeply values the independent identity she has built for herself. During a conversation with Ranveer Allahabadia, Shruti opened up about why she is hesitant about marriage and why becoming a mother is still something she hopes for in the future.

âIâve worked so hard to be my own personâ

22 Jul 2026 | 13:00

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When Ranveer asked Shruti why she had decided not to get married, she admitted that the idea of marriage scares her. Shruti said she is âpetrifiedâ by the thought of marriage because she has worked hard throughout her life to become her own person. For her, the thought of legally connecting that identity to another person through a piece of paper feels frightening. Her words highlight something many women quietly think about, the fear of losing themselves after marriage. For generations, women have been expected to adjust their identities around their relationships, families, and responsibilities. Shrutiâs concern is not necessarily about commitment itself.

It is about protecting the individuality she has worked so hard to build.

Marriage may not be her choice, but commitment still matters

Shruti made it clear that being afraid of marriage does not mean she is against love or long-term relationships. She said she believes in commitment and loyalty, along with the qualities that marriage is traditionally supposed to represent. That distinction is important. A woman can believe deeply in love without believing that marriage is the only way to prove it. Relationships can be built on trust, loyalty, respect, and commitment even when people have different views about marriage. For women especially, this can be a powerful reminder that there is no single timeline or formula for building a meaningful life.

She has always wanted to become a mother

While Shruti may be uncertain about marriage, she is much clearer about one thing: she has always wanted to become a mother. When asked whether she wants children, she answered yes and said motherhood is something she has always wanted. However, she also explained that she never wanted to be a single mother because she believes two parents are important for a child. At the same time, she was careful not to judge families where children are raised by one parent. Her perspective shows that her hesitation about marriage does not mean she has rejected the idea of having a family. Instead, she appears to be thinking carefully about what kind of family environment she would want for her future child.

A woman can want love without giving up herself

Shrutiâs comments also bring attention to a larger conversation about women and independence. For many women, marriage can sometimes come with expectations about how they should behave, what they should prioritise and how much they should compromise. Wanting a relationship does not mean a woman should have to surrender the person she was before it. Shrutiâs fear comes from wanting to remain herself. And perhaps that is the most important part of her message. Women can want love, loyalty, companionship, and even motherhood while still asking themselves an important question: Will I still be me?

There is no universal answer to that question. Some women find freedom and partnership in marriage. Others choose different forms of commitment. Some want children, while others do not. What matters is that these choices come from personal understanding rather than pressure. Shruti Haasanâs words are ultimately less about rejecting marriage and more about protecting her sense of self. For a woman who has spent years building her own identity, that is a choice she clearly wants to make on her own terms.